Parents
A little reminder...to parents
Don't spoil me. I very well know I can't have all I want. I am just testing you.
Don't be afraid to be strict. I like that. Show me where my place is.
Don't force me. That teaches me that only force counts. I will more gladly respond to advices.
Don't be inconsistent. That confuses me and pushes me to escape any commitment.
Don't promise. Maybe you will not be able to keep it, and I will lose my faith in you.
Don't believe my provocations, when I say and do things only to make you sad. I could be trying to get to another ''victory''.
Don't be too sad when I say I hate you. I am not serious, but I would like you to be sorry for what you have done to me.
Don't make me feel smaller than I am. Because of that I will play ''a big shot''.
Don't do for me the things I could do myself. Because of that I feel like a baby, and I could also start to see you as my servants.
Don't let my bad habits take all your attention. That only encourages me to go on.
Don't correct me in front of other people. I would be a lot more careful if you talk to me quietly and alone.
Don't discuss my behavior during a fight. I don't know why, but I don't listen well then, and I am not open to cooperation. It is all right that necessary measures are taken, but the discussion should be kept for later.
Don't let me feel my mistakes are sins: I have to learn to make mistakes, but not feel evil.

Don't complain all the time. If you continue doing it, I will have to start playing deaf.
Don't demand explanations for my behavior. Sometimes I really don't know why I did something.
Don't overestimate my honesty. It is easy to intimidate me into a lie.
Don't forget that I like to experiment. I learn from that, so I ask you for patience.
Don't protect me from consequences. I have to learn from experience.
Don't care too much for me when I have a slight disease. I could start enjoying bad health, if it brought me too much attention.
Don't refuse me when I am asking you normal questions. If you refuse me, you will see me stop asking, and start looking for information somewhere else.
Don't answer my stupid and ridiculous questions. If you refuse me, you will see I just want you to concern yourself with me.
Don't tell me you are ideal and flawless. It is hard to live with such people.
Don't worry about us spending little time together. It is important how we spend it.
Don't let my fears become your anxiety. That will make me even more scared. Show me you are brave.
Don't forget I can't grow up without a lot of understanding and support; deserved praise is sometimes missing, but never the reproof.
Treat me as your friends, and I will be yours.
Remember: I learn more from examples than from criticism.
And above all, I love you so much, love me too...
