Choice of right person for you
Love is team work
A man asked God why he does not have a woman to share his life with. God answered him that he does not have one because he did not ask for one. Then the man asked God to send him a woman he would like. He said he wished his wife to be dear, tender, full of understanding and forgiveness, calm, reasonable, warm, intelligent, capable, beautiful, rich in spirit, having a good sense of humour, efficient, passionate, faithful, loyal and honest. To this he added physical characteristics he dreamed about and painted in full the picture of a woman he wanted to share his life with.
As time passed by, the man added to his list of demands characteristics of his desired woman. One night, in his prayers he heard the voice of God saying to his heart: ''My faithful servant, I can not give you what you wish for.'' The man asked why, and God replied: ''Because I am God and I am righteous. God is Truth, and everything I do is true and right.'' The man stood in awe and asked God to explain him because he was confused with this answer and wanted to know why he could not get what he wished for.
God replied: ''I will explain it to you. Wish for what is in your heart, what is known and is a part of you, believe that such a person is with you, truly believe, and it shall be given to you. It would not be right and fair from me to fulfill your wishes because I can not give you something that you yourself do not have. It would not be right to give you someone full of love to you when your heart is still a stone; I can not give you someone tender and generous when you are sometimes merciless and cheap; I can not give you someone who knows how to forgive when there is still revenge sparkling inside you; I can give you someone sensitive because you are extremely sensitive, so that this sensitivity can touch yours, and the spark of love that reflects in that person will break the stones around your heart and bring in it true love. I can give you a person which has all those characteristics that are in yourself, but it is up to you to mutually develop them and awake them.'
After that God told him: ''I can give you someone for who I know that has in herself all the characteristics you are looking for, but have not yet come out, so that you can with joined forces find them in each other. What I ask from you is only to open your eyes and the door of your heart. At first, you will fight that person, run from her, but she will draw you in an inexplicable way and you will keep returning to her. You will waste your time vainly searching for a person that has all the mentioned qualities, but soon you will realize that I have already sent you a person made for you. She may not have all the desired qualities and physical looks, but deep in yourself you will know she is the one. Your wife will be the bone of your bones and the flesh of your flesh and you will see yourself in her as she will see herself in you and you will be one again. A relationship and a marriage are as school. It is a long-term learning and investment, and during that time you and your partner adapt to each other not only to please each other but to become better people, who know the value of team work. Because love is team work. And that is why I will not give you a perfect partner because you are not perfect too. I will give you a partner with whom you can grow and develop into a better person.''
